Fantasies: Fun, Captivating, And The Key To Our True Selves - Part 4
April 19, 2008 | In Changing Mindset - Considerations |
Table of contents for Fantasies and Goal Setting
- Fantasies: Fun, Captivating, And The Key To Our True Selves - Part 1
- Fantasies: Fun, Captivating, And The Key To Our True Selves - Part 2
- Fantasies: Fun, Captivating, And The Key To Our True Selves - Part 3
- Fantasies: Fun, Captivating, And The Key To Our True Selves - Part 4
Over the past few days, I have examined fantasies, both daydreams and sexual fantasies. I’ve explored the surface meanings and dug deeper to show how they are like a window to the subconscious and a way to get in touch with our authentic selves. 
Clearly, both daydreams and sexual fantasies are rich in meaning. What appears on the surface to be shallow has a depth that we often don’t even realize.
Fantasies Give Us Creative Control
Several times throughout the examination of fantasies, the element of control has come up. We get to control the events in the fantasy and in turn we can control the way our “dream life” plays out. They give us a chance to be creative, even if we can’t express that in reality. There are no limits to what we can accomplish in fantasy. The bigger the dream, the better the fantasy. We get to explore multiple options and ideas of how to reach our goals. This creativity sets us free to craft a plan without making a mistake that would most likely be costly to undo.
Many times in the real world, we are too pressured for time to work through problems throughly. We may look at a few options, but not throughly consider the outcomes. Taking advantage of the full depth of your creativity in your fantasies and daydreams actually makes it easier to carry ideas into your day to day activities.
Fantasies Open Our Minds To Possibilities
Without a doubt, fantasies make us feel good. Not only do they make us feel good, but they allow us to extend that feeling into all areas of our life. In fantasy, we get to connect all the dots and make everything work, not just a little part.
Feeling good then puts us in emotional balance. We can feel deeply and are just more content. This may not last for long, but it’s a great feeling when it does arrive. The more we feel the upsides, the easier it is to get through the downsides.
In turn emotional balance helps us feel hope that things will turn out well. Hope is a wonderful feeling. It’s the underlying feeling of motivation. It’s the power the drives us to do and not just plan. Hope will keep us moving even if the goal feels far away.
As the first step, fantasies are great for lifting us up.
The important next step when we feel that hope, is to set goals. Having goals, written out, means we are more likely to follow through on what we really want. Otherwise, we run the risk of sinking back into despair of the realities of “real life.”
Fantasies matter because they are more than just a pleasant way to pass the time. As I’ve shown throughout this series, dreams, daydreams, and sexual fantasies have possibilities hanging out beneath the surface. Tapping into those deeper meanings can be a powerful tool in our mental goal setting toolbox.
You may choose to simply enjoy your daydreams and sexual fantasies. Or, you may choose to examine them for clarity into what you really want. Either way, I hope your dreams come true and your goals are met.
If you have any comments, questions, or thoughts on this part or other parts in this series, please leave them for me below.
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