Thanks for showing my clean desk at New Year’s — right now it is a mess. an indicator of how stressed out I am.

Second – getting on with my reply.

Ah, yes, sexual fantasy. I was thinking about this idea and how to respond. I realized that all fantasies (sexual or just daydreams) are a way that we get to play out what we really would like to have in life. They show us a glimpse of our dreams/goals. And, anything that can accomplish this gives us some hope, which is a perfect way to banish or at least ease anxiety, in my opinion.

With regards to your second point, that if sex or sexuality is what we are anxious about, then it is quite possible that this will increase anxiety. I agree with this, but I wonder if it might help after all. Is it possible that it would also allow us to play out a scenario that is the way we really want it to occur? This may, in turn, give us inspiration/ideas on how to make it better out in the world. I would have to test this theory to see if it worked it practice, but it makes sense on the surface. (At least I think so!)

Depends where you are of course. (And that it isn’t this that you are anxious about!)